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My journey in surviving ovarian cancer has been a difficult one, and also rewarding. I have met many wonderful people, learned a lot about myself, and have a deeper appreciation for life. Follow me on Twitter @KarenIngalls1, www.facebook.com/Outshine-An-Ovarian-Cancer-Memoir, and you can find my book at: http://www.outshineovariancancer.com. Proceeds will be donated to funding ovarian cancer research.

Friday, May 17, 2013

"I CAN'T EAT ANOTHER BITE!"



                          Appetite change is a common symptom of ovarian cancer.


                                   "Gosh, I was hungry, but already I'm full." 

           IT WAS HER ONLY WARNING SIGN THAT SOMETHING WAS NOT RIGHT!


                      How much of your meal can you typically eat before you feel full? 

                              100%               75%               50%               25%


***Are you constantly full?

         ***Do you have queasiness or indigestion?

                       ***Are you constipated?

                                      ***Are you bloated?

                                                  ***Have you had a weight change?


          PLEASE see your physician if you are aware of any changes in your appetite for 2 weeks. Keep a diary of your appetite changes; write down your family history of cancer; and take this information to the doctor.

         Ovarian cancer has a 90% survival rate if diagnosed and treated in Stage I. 



                  *** Listen to your bodies and act on any change that is not healthy or normal. PLEASE DO NOT IGNORE OR MAKE EXCUSES about what your body is saying to you.




Ovarian cancer does not discriminate. It can affect any age.





To learn more go to:
        http://www.outshineovariancancer.com
        http://www.BeaversPondBooks.com
        http://www.amazon.com/Outshine-An-Ovarian-Cancer-Memoir/dp/1592984622/ref=sr


(Photos courtesy of www.healthexcellence.com and www.picsearch.com)




Thursday, May 9, 2013

MY MOTHER'S DAY GIFT


I am grateful to Cecilia Crandall for sharing her story about her daughter, Laura Crandall Brown, who had a rare and aggressive form of ovarian cancer. Mrs. Crandall is a member of the Speaker's Bureau for the Laura Crandall Brown Ovarian Cancer Foundation. She shares this most poignant story to help spread awareness of the signs and symptoms of this lesser known disease.


Looking back on my daughter's cancer journey, I know I can count on one hand, the number of times I saw Laura absolutely break down and cry during her fifteen month battle. Maybe she was being strong in front of me, just like I was trying to be so strong in front of her. I tried to not let her see my anguish and fear at not being able to "fix things" like Moms always do for their children. I would imagine myself in her shoes and think, "How does she do it?"

Laura began writing a journal during her journey. Reading through it lately has not only inspired me even more, but made me realize that Laura was preparing. It helped me to know what she was thinking and how she made it through those days, and yet she was not bitter. So I felt it appropriate to now share some of Laura's journal entries with other Mother's as my Mother's Day gift to you.

                  "Do I feel God gave me this to deal with for a plan or purpose? Not really.
                    I feel more like I got cancer and He was more like a parent there waiting
                    to support me. Strengthen me, but I don't think He gave me this.
                    I trust He is just taking care of me from above."


Laura made me realize just how important it is to try and stay positive in spite of what God has planned for us.

                   "I don't want people to pity me. Pity finds fault and spreads sadness like 
                     disease. Rather I'd like to get positivity, fun, sense of humor. Let's share
                     that and we'll all feel better in the long run."

                     "I'm not trying to bring anyone down, hell we all know life is tough in
                       some personal way or another. No one is better or worse off, just 
                       circumstantial.
                       But, how we take it, process it, and push it out is what matters. And there is
                       no right answer or method, but we work on it.  Thank you, instincts, thank
                       you for kicking in."

She reminded me to be thankful for all that we have and especially for our health.

                      "I am grateful to be on this earth today and look forward to tomorrow. I will
                       not take for granted all the love and beautiful things here on Earth. I continue
                       to thank God for my time here on earth, each and every day. I ask Him to 
                       guide me in His will. I want to do His will. I do feel His peace and calm when
                       I tap in."

She continues to inspire me and all the work I do in her memory through her foundation.

                       "To think that your life can help to develop a cure is better than voting for a
                       presidential candidate that supports stem cell research. Better than donation. 
                       My body is my tool for researching to help others. My fight is only one among 
                       many. Today cancer is common. More people experience it than we know. We 
                       are a club, a race all our own of medical roller coasters."

A few weeks before Laura died, she needed to be admitted to the hospital for a blood transfusion. Realizing she was receiving more blood than ever before, Laura began to cry and asked me to lie down next to her on the bed. We hugged and cried as Laura told me of her fears and desire to live through the upcoming holidays. "You are the best Mother on earth and I've been so fortunate to have had you as my mom," she said to me. 

I treasure that memory
               and those words
                               so much now,
                                                but especially on Mother's Day every year.
                                                                           WHAT A GIFT!



                  PLEASE support the Laura Crandall Brown Ovarian Cancer Foundation.
                                               

LINKS:
                 http://www.thinkoflaura.org
                 http://twitter.com/LCBOCFoundation
                 http://facebook.com/LCBOCF


                    

Thursday, May 2, 2013

CIRCLE OF LIFE: SURVIVING CANCER

      The last two chapters of my book, Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir are titled "Remission" and "New Birth-Day." 

       In the field of cancer the word CURE is almost never spoken. It is defined as the relief of the symptoms of a disease. REMISSION, is defined as there being no evidence of symptoms of cancer cells present, which is the term most often used.

     I celebrate my new birth-day on June 20th, the date of my diagnosis. I have been in remission for 5 years. I am surviving and thriving, which means I am continuing to live and living to the fullest. The song "Circle of Life" says it all, no matter what are circumstances are:

                                     From the day we arrive on the planet,
                                     And blinking, step into the sun
                                     There's more to see than can ever be seen
                                     More to do than ever be done
                                     There's far too much to take in here
                                     More to find than ever be found
                                     But the sun rolling high
                                     Through the sapphire sky
                                     Keeps great and small on the endless round.

                                     It's the Circle of Life

                                     And it moves us all
                                     Through despair and hope
                                     Through faith and love
                                     Till we find our place
                                     On the path unwinding
                                     In the Circle
                                     The Circle of Life.

      "In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us." (Anonymous)

     I like the quote from Michael Douglas: "Cancer didn't bring me to my knees, it brought me to my feet."    

     I have lived for 5 years cancer free, which is not typical for those women diagnosed with ovarian cancer. Yes, my life changed forever since I heard those fateful words, "You have cancer,"

                                but, my life is richer, has a new purpose, and filled with greater gratitude.      
                                That is my Circle of Life, and why I am surviving and thriving.



     Proceeds from my book go to ovarian and gynecologic research. It may be purchased at:                  

                                                        www.BeaversPondBooks.com
                                                        www.amazon.com
                                                        www.barnesandnoble.com

Thursday, April 25, 2013

DON'T IGNORE THE PAIN: ABDOMINAL OR PELVIC



                    "I had pain in what seemed like my stomach area."
          "The pain was in the lower corner of my abdomen and radiated around to my back."

                                            "My lower back hurt without relief."

                      "I thought the abdominal pain was just related to my menstrual cycle."

               "I take Aleve, (Advil, Tylenol or Aspirin) and the pain never really goes away."





The message is clear and simple: 

       IF THE PAIN PERSISTS LONGER THAN 2 WEEKS, SEE YOUR PHYSICIAN.

                           THIS COULD BE A SYMPTOM OF OVARIAN CANCER.


ON MAY 12, OUR NATION GIVES HONOR TO OUR MOTHERS. SHARE THIS INFORMATION WITH YOUR MOTHER, SISTER, DAUGHTER, GRANDMOTHER, AUNT, OR ANY FEMALE FRIEND. 

                THE MORE WOMEN WHO KNOW THE SIGNS, THE MORE WILL NOT IGNORE 
                                 THE "WHISPERING" SYMPTOMS OF OVARIAN CANCER.
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Thursday, April 18, 2013

IT IS EASIER TO BREATHE: LOVE & GRATITUDE

                   


                      "Your thoughts, words, and deeds are painting the world around you."

                                    This quote by Jewel Diamond Taylor poignantly explains not what life does to us, but how we react and interact in our world.

             A good friend recently shared how she looks at three different photographs of family and nature each morning to start her day and each evening as she prepares for sleep. One photo makes her laugh; another one reinforces her appreciation for the beauty of nature; and the third photo reminds her of God's unconditional love.


           SHE IS PAINTING HER WORLD WITH BRUSHES OF LOVE AND GRATITUDE.


When we are content, grateful, positive, smiling, and trusting our bodies, minds, and spirits are relaxed.  All the bodies systems are in an environment to work more harmoniously and efficiently; our minds are free of cluttering thoughts and needless worries; and our relationship to God or a Higher Power is more profound.

                          "It is easier to breathe," my friend said. "I still have challenges and problems to face, but life is smoother.
             Might I suggest that each morning and at each bedtime:
           1. Sit or lie down in a comfortable position.
                2. Breathe in and out three long slow breathes.
                3. Look at 3 photographs that lift your spirit, make you smile, and grow your gratitude.
                4. After a few minutes, arise and enjoy your day; or have a peaceful sleep.


Here are my photos:





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Thursday, April 11, 2013

FROM THE SILENCE WITHIN


I am delighted to introduce my guest blogger, Madhavi Sood, who shares her near-death experience and a poem from her book, From The Silence Within. Her story, gift of writing, and faith are all inspirational to me.

                                                                     I Believe ...

      Sometimes our deepest desires are the ones that push us to move on and do, and become all we want to in Life.




     I have traversed a long and painful journey and there is a lot I had to overcome to be able to walk and run again, although I have yet to cross many more miles and many more books to pen down. Life has given me a second chance - to live, to dream and to fulfill and I treasure, and hold close each moment of it.

     I have seen Life at close quarters from being a high achiever at school & college and later at work. 
Every thing some how came to a stand still when I almost died in my prime, struck with disease and bed ridden. I had a NDE- near death experience

     When I was in pain, Light and Nature beckoned me to pen poems and words, which flowed down like a cascade  while I was still lying down on my bed scribbling and looking through the open window at the sky and green trees by my bedside.


              Sometimes sketching or painting or simply writing down all that I wished to do in Life...



     I watered the plants in my small garden patch, perched so uncomfortably at times on a chair, trying to wash all the leaves and sprinkle them with the watering can. I hoped of being able to sit down without pain and enjoy the little joys of nature and of life!

     
     Each day was a challenge, as I surely recovered with Allopathy and Homeopathy medication from my Doctors and a lot of Praanayaam and Meditation. And of course a lot of love and understanding from my Dad and Mom  and my Family and the support of my husband, who all in their own wonderful ways stood by me and still do like pillars of strength.

    



Sometimes, in despair I would cry out in my sleep, for my joints had swollen with fluid and I could not fold my fingers or knees properly. At such moments, I would listen to the Gayatri Mantra and pray for strength from the Almighty God to make me alright again so I could fulfill all my dreams.

    


      I yearned to be a mother, when all my systems had almost halted and my hormones had gone haywire. Traversing and crossing the boundaries of spaces and times, my poems reached out to me and my own soul and helped me move my body engulfed as it was in aches, pains and ailments. Writing and reading books truly set my soul free and helped me recover faster – for here I could explore the written word and even express my innermost thoughts and feelings and simply be.

                                                                  I Believe ...

     If one truly and earnestly believes in all that one can or wants to be, surely a miracle begins the minute we start believing in one’s self and ones own abilities.  After a close NDE, I realized that the Universe we live in is full of radiant energy.




                      After all the sun always shines and pushes the darkness away at all times.

     
     The poems in this book, From the Silence Within, were written by me whilst I was bed ridden and ‘fighting for life’  some time back. Most of them are soul stirring, inspiring and motivating the self. Some poems are funny, a few lyrical and some romantic too.  Yet most of them are motivating and dealing with Life in its different shades and hues. I hope these poems move you, touch your soul and spirit as much as I loved writing them, for they eased me from pain and gave me a hope to survive.

                            “From the Silence within, shall bloom a thousand flowers.
                            Showered on life’s path, colourful and radiant like the stars.
                            And as each petal shall unfold.
                            A brand new verse, a poem, a new story unspoken will be told.

                            And as you browse through each page.
                            A mystery, some wisdom sprinkled will uncage.
                            For in my silence you will find.
                            My feelings, my joys and my sorrows hidden behind.

                            And when I am gone and lost.
                            These few words do treasure and keep fast.
                            Just close your eyes and listen from the Silence Within.
                            For I’ll be there with you forever, through, thick or thin”.

                                                            (© Madhavi Sood alias Madhavi Mohandas 2012.
                                                                 Published in From the Silence Within)

In deep appreciation and gratitude to Life and to my Creator....



My Book Reviews links:

     http://www.bookchums.com/book/from-the-silence-within/9789381836057/NjY3MDU=.html
 
On You-Tube:

     http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GimrwE2xdHc


The  Interviews links:

     http://betweenthelines.in/2012/10/interview-madhavi-sood-author-of-from-the-silence-within/

Thank you so much, Karen Ingalls, whose life and work is so inspiring and who has given me this wonderful opportunity to write a guest blog and share my experiences and about my first book of poems, From the Silence Within. 



Thursday, April 4, 2013

KIND ACTS: GIVING LOVE TO OTHERS


     "Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love." (Mother Teresa)


     Here in Lake County, Florida, there is an organization called "Women for Hospice," the sole purpose of which is to raise money for the patient and extended care only in the Cornerstone Hospice program.
This wonderful organization was started about 20 years ago by Ermyne Pearson. There are now approximately over 300 members; all functions are done by volunteers; and there are no paid employees. Last December Women for Hospice wrote a check for a little over $100,000.00 to Cornerstone Hospice.



After her sister died of breast cancer, Nancy Goodman Brinker started the Susan G. Komen Breast Cancer Foundation in 1982. In 2008 it was changed to the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure and adopted the pink ribbon as its logo. Millions of dollars have been raised for research and awareness.

 
   

     Three time survivor of ovarian cancer, Bonnie Donihi, in 1997 sat at a kitchen table with other survivors and supporters which was the start of the Ovarian Cancer Alliance of Florida. Their first event in 1999 was a candlelight vigil where 500 people attended. Since then this organization administers grant money for education and research at the University of Central Florida College of Nursing and the Florida Hospital Cancer Institute.



    Each of the women mentioned have given generously of their time, knowledge, and skills because of love. Their acts of kindness has impacted so many people and we are a better world because of them. My personal thanks to each of them...where would we be today without them? We each can do small things with great love.

      Please share about someone you know who has done similar acts of love. Just click on the comment button below. We can all learn from each other and your sharing is important.