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Ovarian cancer will be diagnosed in 1 of 72 women; 14,000 will die. Please know the symptoms and risk factors: read Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir. Books at www.amazon.com. ALL PROCEEDS GO TO GYNECOLOGIC CANCER RESEARCH. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club and Rave Writer's International Society of Authors, and Patient Leadership Council for Tesaro, Inc. I WILL NOT USE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS FOR ANY OTHER PURPOSE THAN CONTACTING YOU DIRECTLY. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2018.

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Be Gentle

A friend shared this quote with me yesterday "When you feel frustrated about your limitations, be gentle with yourself. Treat yourself as you would a loved one you're nurturing back to health...." How true! I remember those dark days of dealing with active cancer, surgery, and chemo with all the physical, emotional and spiritual reactions. At times I said, "I want my life back." Well, guess what?! I had my life. It was just a new life; a different life. In my book Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir, you will learn how I turned cancer into another of life's many challenges I had faced. Seeing it as a challenge, not as a "why me," "punishment," or "my failure," etc. allowed me to nurture myself.

My mother was a wonderful role model when it came to dealing with health limitations. When she was 16 years old she developed rheumatic fever, which subsequently damaged her heart's mitral valve. She could not do the activities that teenagers and young women usually do...dancing, playing tennis (which she loved), going up and down stairs, be in high altitudes, active sports, and so on. She did have three children much against her doctor's advice, which further compromised her health. I never heard her complain about her limitations. Sometimes she pushed herself too far and then paid the price, but she enjoyed life and made the most of it.

Last week, I blogged about the flat tire and today's blog is basically the same subject. I felt it was worth repeating the theme, because a disease like cancer and its treatments takes so much out of the life we once enjoyed. The moral is: "Nurture myself as I nurture others."

1 comment:

  1. Congrats on getting through April. And I feel you with the walking exhaustion – but it’s great you went out. Step by step (after considerable rest) it really makes things easier. I hope the energy continues to build.