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Ovarian cancer will be diagnosed in 1 of 72 women; 14,000 will die. Please know the symptoms and risk factors: read Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir. Books at www.amazon.com. ALL PROCEEDS GO TO GYNECOLOGIC CANCER RESEARCH. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club and Rave Writer's International Society of Authors, and Patient Leadership Council for Tesaro, Inc. I WILL NOT USE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS FOR ANY OTHER PURPOSE THAN CONTACTING YOU DIRECTLY. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2018.

Thursday, January 31, 2013


In Cell War Notebooks, you will be deeply touched by the spirit and courage of the young author. This blog is part of a worldwide movement to increase cervical cancer awareness on this the last day of January, this particular cancer's month.

YES, cervical cancer is detectable through the PAP smear.

     NO, it is not 100% curable

         YES, its symptoms usually appear after the cancer is advanced, which are vaginal bleeding,
                   pelvic pain, or painful intercourse.

              NO, the cause(s) are unknown except HPV (humanpapillomavirus) "plays a role."

                  YES, there are risk factors such as many sexual partners, early sexual activity, weak
                            immune system, and smoking.

Julie Forward DeMay died August 10, 2009 when she was only 37 years old. She had regular PAP tests and was diagnosed to be at an early stage in January 2008. She had a radical hysterectomy and was considered to be cured, but the cancer came back aggressively when it spread to her lungs.

Cell War Notebooks, is a compilation of Julie's blogs and made into a book by her mother. Proceeds go to a fund for Julie's young daughter. The book is available on Amazon.com.

PLEASE forward this blog to your friends; buy the book; and help get the word out about cervical cancer.

Thursday, January 24, 2013


                              I received an email last year called "Carrots, Eggs, and Coffee." It was about how                               when carrots, eggs, and coffee beans are subjected to boiling water, their different reactions are similar to how each of us respond in our own unique ways to adversity.     

                          The carrot enters the water strong, tough, and firm, but once it is in boiling water, it will become soft and easily mashed. The orange color is less vibrant; it loses some of its nutritional value by loss of vitamins and minerals; and the taste changes to more bitter.


      The egg is vulnerable with its thin and fragile shell. Its insides are liquid and easily spread thin without its shell to protect it. After being boiled in water the outer shell requires more force to crack, and what was once liquid is now hardened. An even slightly cooked egg is more palatable to eat.


      A coffee bean gains strength and hardness from the tree. It likes tropical weather with lots of rain, the thin air in the mountains, and the warm sun. The bean needs the boiling water to become the wonderful cup of coffee that greets many of us each morning. The sweet aroma is relaxing; its warmth is comforting; and its taste is pleasant. 

     When you are faced with a challenge, struggle, or problem are you like the cooked carrot that weakens and loses resolve? Or do you become firmer and more resolute like the hard-boiled egg though look the same? Or are you like the coffee bean that changes into coffee; do you become a better person and rise to a higher level when faced with a challenge.? In my book Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir, I talk about how I went through different stages of facing this challenge. I try to live my life as a cup of coffee!

     Click on "comment" below and share how you might be like any of these three food items; in what circumstances you might be more like the carrot, egg, or the coffee; and how do you see the people in your life and how they respond to the boiling water of challenges.

Thursday, January 17, 2013


I am very pleased to have Winsome Campbell-Green as my guest blogger this week. A successful author of two books, her message is positive, inspiring, and helpful. Enjoy!

                       "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. 
                         If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, 
                         ever have enough." (Oprah Winfrey)

     I want to leave with you a very important lesson to remember: appreciate all that you have and live in the moment. We all want to find happiness and fulfillment. Isn't that what everyone dreams of? In trying to acquire wealth, or find true love at the expense of your own needs or those who care about you, true happiness remains elusive. We all have a purpose in this life. If the things you try result in "setbacks," try something else, but enjoy the journey along the way. As we discussed earlier, those "setbacks" may turn out to be "steps forward" on the path to your joy. Remember things take time. When you feel like you are in the heat of battle with everything crumbling around you, pause to remind yourself it doesn't have to be a battle if you continue to have hope and faith.

     Setbacks do not mean you should abandon your goals. Even when things don't work out the way you wanted, that does not mean they won't. Stressing or worrying about what is to come prevents you from living and enjoying your life today! When considering a major change because the place that you're in feels uncomfortable, look at your life and see what you can do to change the place you're in. A change of location will not change your life if you don't change your own thoughts in the process. No matter where you go, your life will continue on the current path until you change your thoughts and your focus. As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "What you focus on expands." If you live from a place of gratitude and appreciate all that you have, you will find more and more things to be grateful for. If you are focused on what's missing from your life, you will find more and more things missing.

     The past is the past. Looking back, and keeping your focus on the things that hurt you will only prevent you from living a happy life now. Looking back to see the lessons, being grateful for the things each experience taught you, and forgiving yourself and those that hurt you frees you up to enjoy every minute of every day that is given to you. Cherish the people in your life. Life is short, and one day you may look back on your life and say you wished you had loved more and enjoyed the little moments. Avoid those regrets by fully living in each moment. Don't lose your "present" by lamenting the past, or worrying about the future.

     Before you go, take some time to ponder the following questions and begin to take action:

          How can you change your own thoughts to change your life?

          Are you cheating yourself of the chance to live a happy and fulfilling life in the now?

          Do you want to live a happy and fulfilling life?

          Are you ready, willing and motivated?

          Then just do it!

                       Taken from: Ten Life Changing Lessons by Winsome Campbell-Green

Author Bio: I am a multi-talented young woman who has a passion for writing and inspiring people. I am the author of two books: Ten Life Changing Lessons and The Perks of A Positive Attitude: A Practical Guide To Happiness And Success. My hope is that my books will help to change thoughts and lives of my readers. I hope to inspire young adults (male and female), especially women, who has ever struggled to find their true purpose in life and who now wants to live a life of strength, purpose, and feel empowered. Currently I am working on my first novel about growing up in Jamaica. I am happily married to my best friend who is my loving husband. I enjoy going to the beautiful beach in the paradise Jamaica as well as traveling and experiencing different cultures. I believe in celebrating life and accepting each day with gratitude and love.

Thursday, January 10, 2013


     "God needed me more" were the last words spoken by a boy of 9 years old, which he said to his father shortly before he passed away On November 27, 2012, he lost his 2 year battle with cancer. That young man was Jayden Lamb, whose short life has had a profound affect on people around the world. The parents found that reaching out to people helped them cope with their loss. So they paid for the order given by the car behind them at the fast food restaurant. They wanted to "pay it forward." Their kind gesture was repeated again and again by the cars in line; and like an uncontrolled wildfire, acts of kindness spread. These actions reflected the true nature of Jayden.

 Perhaps God needed him more, but we humans need his legacy of love and kindness. Last week I shared my new year's resolution of "At least once each day I will be a bright spot by giving someone a compliment." In the Bible it says "As we sow so shall we reap." Let's be generous, polite, helpful, and minister to all. Many people need to be hugged. Pay it forward with those in your home, your neighbors, and spread your kindness to strangers. Even animals need for us to pay it forward.

     I direct you to the following links to learn more about this remarkable young man and his family: www.facebook.com/KeepOnTruckinTeamJayden?filter=2; www.minbcnews.com; www.cbsnews.com/.../brief-life-of-michigan-boy; shine.yahoo.com/.../paying-forward-jayden-style-random.

Please share about your times of paying it forward. On the 16th of January, I will post this blog and accompanying comments to Jayden's Facebook page so the family will know how their son's life has affected each of us.

Friday, January 4, 2013


     Now that the busy-ness of Christmas, Hannukah, and New Year celebrations are in our memories, I made the following resolution:

                            At least once each day, I will be a bright spot by giving someone a compliment.

     Last summer I did a presentation for my book, Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir, for the Bright Spots group at Mayo Clinic, Rochester, MN. A few days later one of Mayo's administrative assistants, received this email:

              "So right after hearing our guest speaker, Karen Ingalls, I get back to my desk and I have a message to call a patient. The patient has questions about her upcoming chemotherapy appts and also feels like she just isn't progressing with her postop recovery. Ok I have to be honest...I'm thinking in my head while talking to her that everything sounds fine with her and she's going on and on and on and I've got lots more to do...so let's hurry this conversation along! Well, then a little voice came to me and said, "Jdee--slow down--remember the message you just got from Karen that we should listen to our patients. I thought wow--this is timely! Ok, so I took a deep breath and then really began to listen to her. We ended up having a lovely conversation. I got to know that she lived alone and was really having a difficult time adjusting to her cancer diagnosis and chemotherapy. When we came time to say our good-byes she thanked me for taking the time to talk to her. At this point I felt a bit guilty--'cause if only she knew what I was thinking when we first started talking. And then she asked if it would be ok to call me again just to talk if she needed to. Here my heart softened and I realized that I became a bright spot for her without knowing or even maybe wanting to and in return she became a needed bright spot for me."

Being A Bright Spot: Shining Through

     The writer's message taught me a lesson, which is one that many of us would be wise to learn.

     I invite you to make a resolution by completing the following: "I resolve to be a bright spot to others by ______________________________________________________________________."     Click on comment below and share your resolution.