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My journey as a writer began as a child. I wrote poems and short stories which were my way of dealing with various life changing events. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club. Follow me on Twitter @KIngallsAuthor www.facebook.com/KarenIngalls, and you can find my books at www.amazon.com. My first book is Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir which received two awards. All proceeds are donated to gynecologic cancer research. My second book is a novel Novy's Son, about one man's attempt to find love and acceptance from his father. This is an all too common problem in our society. My third book, Davida: Model and Mistress of Augustus Saint-Gaudens is about the love affair between this great American sculptor and his model. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2017.

Thursday, March 21, 2013

AGING OR SAGE-ING: WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH YOUR LIFE?



     From the time we take our first breath we are in the process of aging. How long we age and what we do during those years determines how content or peaceful we are with our lives. Sage-ing International defines sage-ing as "...a way of living the second half of our lives that is joyful, fulfilling and meaningful...involves personal and spiritual growth, making deeper connections with our friends and family, developing new passions and giving back through service to others.

     We recently watched the short documentary "King's Point." It is about senior citizens who moved to Florida from New York City to get away from the harsh winters, higher cost of living, and stressful life style. The film highlighted 5 or 6 people who shared their accepting or not accepting their present situation and future. Keeping busy with activities from card playing to dancing was very important to each of them. Some searched for companionship by re-marrying, while others were content to remain single.

     What struck me was that not one person talked about the deeper meanings of their lives. They did not speak about their faith; did not seek out more knowledge; nor did they share their wealth of knowledge and experience with their children, grandchildren, or younger citizens of Tampa. Perhaps the producers purposely left out any element of what I see as sage-ing. My grandmother lived her 92 years as a sage...she never stopped learning and sharing her knowledge about many aspects of life. She sought out spirituality, history, social and political issues, and wrote and talked about her views and experiences.

     I believe it was Mark Twain who said that we are only as old as think we are if we did not know how old we are. A Chinese doctor I went to for many years asked, "How young are you?" not how old. Life is God's gift to us, and what we do with it is our gift to God, is a paraphrase from Emmet Fox, a 20th century theologian and philosopher.

    I think of people like Harriet Hodgson, a renowned author of more than 30 books, who spends her elder years helping people through the grieving process;

   Shirley Corder who works to enrich the lives of those facing breast cancer with her book, Strength Renewed, presentations, and blogs;






and Milt Adams, the inspiring founder of Beavers Pond Press, who at the age of 70 "wanted to give something to others," and "change the world for the better."

I invite you to the websites of these sages:

                                  http://www.harriethodgson.com

                                          http://www.shirleycorder.com

                                                 http://www.BeaversPondPress.com

3 comments:

Valerie Swink said...

Karen, I too wonder why people so seldom talk about the deeper questions. I also wonder why so many don't care to learn anything new.

Then I read an "Ask Marilyn" column by Marilyn Vos Savant that answered directly the second question, and indirectly, the first:

Question: Why do we cling to our beliefs even after seeing facts that prove us wrong?


Answer: Because people get freaked out by the notion of being wrong about anything. It makes them feel insecure. If you can be wrong about this or that, what about all the other stuff you think you know? And the more important the subject, the more unnerving the emotion. It’s not too scary to be incorrect about a math concept, but how about the car you bought? Or the doctor you chose?

Your question goes to the heart of much unsound thinking. After we leave school, we tend to head down one of two roads:

1. We close our minds to new or different information while becoming more and more sure of ourselves;

2. We watch, listen, and learn as we get older. The second road has way more bumps and curves, but it’s also the path to wisdom.

Valerie Swink said...

Hooray for the Second Road!!!!

Karen Ingalls said...

I hope I will always choose the second road. I learned from Grandma Edith the value of always pursuing knowledge, willingness to change old ideas, and being open to new ones.

Valerie, thank you for sharing...your comments are appreciated.