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Ovarian cancer will be diagnosed in 1 of 72 women; 14,000 will die. Please know the symptoms and risk factors: read Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir. Books at www.amazon.com. ALL PROCEEDS GO TO GYNECOLOGIC CANCER RESEARCH. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club and Rave Writer's International Society of Authors, and Patient Leadership Council for Tesaro, Inc. I WILL NOT USE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS FOR ANY OTHER PURPOSE THAN CONTACTING YOU DIRECTLY. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2018.

Thursday, June 27, 2013


                                         "It is the worst flooding in 500 years! "

     Our dream vacation of taking a river cruise through Europe became a motor coach or bus cruise on the Autobahn, through city streets, or down country roads trying to reach our destinations without encountering the many flooded areas. Despite it all, or perhaps because of the challenges of long bus rides, packing and unpacking, different places to stay every other night, and uncertainties of what each day might bring, we had a wonderful time.

Our trip represented what life is all about: it has many challenges!

       Have you faced physical, emotional and sexual abuse?
              Did you lose a job, position, or job promotion?
                      Have you had major financial concerns?
                              Deaths of loved ones?
                                     Decline of a marriage or had a divorce?
                                            Unwanted move to a new state or city?
                                                    Do you have cancer, heart conditions, or other health concerns?
                                                           Are the family dynamics negative or painful?
                                                                  Do you fear the aging process?

                                               HOW DO YOU FACE THEM?                                          

      On our trip I laughed...got angry...prayed...tried to say positive things...at times was overly tired...enjoyed the beauty...shared tears...ate and drank delicious food and wine...made wonderful new friends...played...exercised...learned...and I grew from the experience. The flood waters taught me that no matter the challenge I can work through it, place sandbags of prayer, face or confront it, and choose to become a better person because of the flood waters.

     Thanks to everyone who has touched my life...and thank you to my new friends from the European River (Bus/Motor-Coach) Cruise. It was a wonderful way to celebrate my fifth year of being cancer free.

Please leave a comment, share an experience, or a lesson of life you have learned.

Saturday, June 8, 2013


                   A teardrop is a salty fluid made up of protein, water, mucus, and oil released by the lacrimal gland. There are 3 types of tears:
  1. Basal which is a constant fluid keeping our eye moist.
  2. Reflex which serves to protect the eye from irritants like onions, smoke, chemicals, etc.
  3. Emotional tears actually start in the cerebrum where our emotions are. They are thought to rid the body of toxins built up from stress or illness.
                   Tears of sadness or joy come very easily to me. I have read that a tear is made of 1% water and 99% feelings.

               "As tears flow out, love flows in." I believe this with all my heart, because it is an opportunity to open ourselves to the love that is around us. The days before I learned I had cancer "Jim and I sobbed until our throats and stomachs ached." We developed an ever closer relationship with God and with each other...love enveloped us.

                   When I am with my "Card Club" friends, my sister, or my sons, I can laugh so long and hard that I am wiping away tears. It is so healing! such fun! We need comedians, jokes, clowns, or comedy shows to help alleviate pain, harsh memories, or tragic events that too often surround our everyday lives.

                   During the early days of dealing with my ovarian cancer diagnosis and chemotherapy, I watched I Love Lucy, The Carol Burnett Show, Leave It To Beaver, Laurel & Hardy, or such shows to bring laughter to my troubled soul. I was determined not to wallow in fear, depression, or self-pity.


I think I look like both these two cuties. 

Sometimes I laugh so hard I cry tears of joy.

Are you comfortable with your tears of sadness or joy? 

                    Most of the day do you wear a smile? or a frown, which is an upside smile?

                                        Find laughter and share it with another.




(Photos courtesy of Google)

Saturday, June 1, 2013


The wonderful gifts of friendship are:

            **Someone's ears to listen

            **Sharing tears

            **Laughing together

            **A hand to be held, a shoulder to lean, or arms to surround you

            **And, someone is JUST THERE for you, no matter what.

                 In my book, Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir you will read about the valuable role my friends had with my cancer journey, and still have today.

                A friendship brings balance into our lives physically, emotionally/mentally, and spiritually. Our endorphins flow more freely, our muscles are relaxed, our heart rate is slowed down and we breathe easier. All those (and many other positive physical changes) help to create a healing environment.

               When we are at peace, free of fear, and accepting of our situation, then we hear and understand information more clearly. A friend helps to create such a situation. This allows us to make informed decisions.

               God is my friend. It is His love, forgiveness, constant presence and guidance that is the example I seek in my earthly relationships.

I invite you to do the following exercise:

  • Name 3 friends who helped you through a difficult time.
  • Name 5 people who have taught you something worthwhile.
  • Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special.
  • Think of 5 people you enjoy spending time with.