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My journey as a writer began as a child. I wrote poems and short stories which were my way of dealing with various life changing events. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club. Follow me on Twitter @KIngallsAuthor www.facebook.com/KarenIngalls, and you can find my books at www.amazon.com. My first book is Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir which received two awards. All proceeds are donated to gynecologic cancer research. My second book is a novel Novy's Son, about one man's attempt to find love and acceptance from his father. This is an all too common problem in our society. My third book, Davida: Model and Mistress of Augustus Saint-Gaudens is about the love affair between this great American sculptor and his model. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2017.

Friday, April 25, 2014

ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING!


      Recently a dear friend’s son wrote about the importance of a positive and loving attitude while facing any challenge. He writes this while facing advanced colon cancer. An 18 year old with Stage IV esophageal cancer does not "give in to all that negativity" but uses one word for his future prospects: "Excited." The saying about “the glass being half full” always offers a perspective of hope.



     We have all heard about the angel on one shoulder and the devil on the other, or the good wolf versus the bad wolf. When we allow bitterness, anger, jealousy, or selfishness control our decisions and actions then are we able to achieve our goals? If it is the bad wolf in control of our attitude, our goals might be achieved, but at what price? This is the central theme of my recent novel, Novy’s Son, The Selfish Genius (www.amazon.com)


     How to change a negative attitude to a positive one:

          1. Never compare yourself to others.
          2. Set a goal and try to reach it.
          3. Set a goal for things you are lacking (finances, friends, job, etc.)
          4. Give everything a chance before rejecting it.
          5. Keep yourself well groomed (look how you want to feel).
          6. Let others know how their negativity is affecting you.
          7. Stay upbeat.
          8. Be active in things that make you happy.
          9. SMILE.

      Even as a young person I was inspired by such people as Norman Vincent Peale, Albert Schweitzer, Marion Anderson, Gandhi, and Jesus. 
     Today my role models include those people who face adversity with strength, positivity, and a belief that when we live each moment with love and optimism we can "outshine any challenge or bad wolf."

                            For the most part is your attitude positive or negative? 
                           Are the people in your life smiling or frowning?
                           Is your glass half full or half empty?


4 comments:

The Savvy Sister said...

Thanks for this wonderful piece! Many mistake positive attitude as "faking it" or just putting on a smile and not feeling happy. That's not it. There are many tools you can use to actually and sincerely feel positive in tough situations. There are practices and teaching models that can help. Yoga, mindful meditation and writing in a gratitude journal all help move towards this true feeling. I am constantly working on this as it seems to slip in and out of who I am. Just like physical exercise, emotional and mental exercise needs to be practiced every day to achieve success. Just recently I found "Loving What Is" by Byron Katie. A wonderful practice! She found Daoism (or Taoism) while detoxing from a drug addiction and teaches what she discovered.....The only thing you need is the desire to feel more positive. For some THAT is the real challenge.

Judith Redwing Keyssar said...

THANKS KAREN…..Here is
A poem I wrote just before my last round of Chemo:

March 22, 2014
Spring in Albion

The gateway of redwood trees allows entry
to this realm of beauty and healing
to the vista of widened river hoping for the sea
to the wild white waters of wind and ocean
the knowing whales swimming deep below

Blossoms
How can one describe these tiny brilliant flowers
Who go from bud to fruit so easily, so quickly really
Each tree so different
The apples in their pale pink to dark pink to almost white
The Asian pears like snowballs from a distance—
big puffs of white all clustered together
And then the queen of the meadow—the ornamental cherry
A huge cloud of pale pink mist, feathers, perfume—she beckons
All who see her, to come near, to be enchanted
By her beauty
And her willingness to expose herself to the elements
And to the river of time
Understanding that her splendor is brief,
But her commitment to rebirth each Spring
Inspires Hope
And the promise of light and renewal
For all who gaze upon her

In the cool velvet darkness
In the middle of the night
In the midst of dreams of passion and confusion
The Moon
claims the landscape and skyscape
Overpowering all else, even at three quarters of her fullness
She lights and delights the creatures of the night—
The roaming deer, raccoons, skunks, night birds
The cats and dogs who awaken, feeling the pulse of energy
That moves the tides
And the few humans who rise from sleep to be bathed for a moment
in the softness of her shining
Her energy too, seeping into the blossoms
The pine and fir and redwoods
The cold, moist green grass

Morning,
this second day of Spring
Spotlights the pale orange and yellow tulips
The white and golden daffodils,
The dew leftover from a frosty night
Covering the meadow with shimmering diamonds
Birds call from fences and treetops
Aware that change is in the air
Time to renew, rebuild, replenish

I listen to the quiet of the air
Feeling the pulses of all my meridians
Preparing for a new season, as well
Preparing to renew, rebuild, replenish
Rejoice
In the Spirit
In the Heart
In the Body
Knowing that this winter of darkness
Has taught me so
And the human path of dis-ease and discomfort
Is part of my path now
But like the Spring,
like Hope
like flowers with their hint of fruit to come
and trees that grow slowly taller and stronger
and birds who migrate, or not
I am part of this earth

And I have simply weathered another season
And I am ready now
To blossom
Once again

Redwing Keyssar www.lastactsofkindness.com

Karen Ingalls said...

Such wonderful advice. I use meditation and writing to help me stay positive and loving in my thoughts and deeds. Thank you for sharing.

Karen Ingalls said...

A beautiful poem that speaks volumes about the beauty of living life with hope. I am so glad you shared the poem here so that many others can benefit from it. You are blossoming once again!