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Ovarian cancer will be diagnosed in 1 of 72 women; 14,000 will die. Please know the symptoms and risk factors: read Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir. Books at www.amazon.com. ALL PROCEEDS GO TO GYNECOLOGIC CANCER RESEARCH. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club and Rave Writer's International Society of Authors, and Patient Leadership Council for Tesaro, Inc. I WILL NOT USE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS FOR ANY OTHER PURPOSE THAN CONTACTING YOU DIRECTLY. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2018.

Friday, February 28, 2014


A very special friend recently sent me a beautiful email in response to reading my book, Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir. His wife passed away a few years ago from ovarian cancer and he comes to our monthly lunch in Orlando. 
When she lost her hair she decided to make a bird's nest out of it.

                                        Now it is my turn to make a bird's nest. 

      Yesterday I learned that the cancer has returned!

               It is a tumor in my abdomen near my colon and two nodules in my left lung.

                         I will have chemotherapy again, starting very soon.

                                 The good news is that the tumors are small and contained.

                             I ask for your prayers for me, my husband, and family....

In closing, here is the prayer from St. Francis of Assisi that helped support me the first time I faced this ugly and scary challenge:

                   Lord, help me to live this day quietly, easily.
                  To lean upon thy great strength trustfully, restfully.
                  To wait for the unfolding of thy will patiently, serenely.
                  To meet others peacefully, joyously.
                  To face tomorrow confidently, courageously.

Thursday, February 20, 2014


Drugs: are medications to treat or cure a disease or disorder. They provide symptom or pain relief; reduce swelling or fevers; and provide comfort, sleep or relaxation by decreasing stress or anxiety.

          Druggies: are some people who unfortunately use such unhealthy drugs as cocaine, heroin, methamphetamine, alcohol, and in my opinion, marijuana. Some also use prescription drugs in abusive and unhealthy ways.
        Unhealthy street drugs look like this under the microscope. Some are beautiful, others look disjointed.


**At a recent social gathering in our community the following was shared about being drugged.** 

           Did we have a drug problem when we were growing up in the 1930's, 1940's or 1950's?
                                                                YES, WE DID!
  • We were drugged to church on Sunday mornings or the Synagogue on Saturdays,
  • By our ears we were drugged to apologize for something said disrespectfully,
  • Weeds got pulled in Mom's garden after I was drugged out for swearing or lying,
  • Or, I was drugged to the kitchen sink to have my mouth washed out with soap,
  • If I had a poor report card, I was drugged with my parents to meet the teacher.
                         THOSE DRUGS ARE STILL IN MY VEINS...
                                AND I THANK GOD FOR PARENTS & GRANDPARENTS
                                        WHO PROVIDED ME WITH SUCH DRUGS.

(I believe this was written by Randy & Melanie Bordelon. It is a popular letter found on the Internet posted in newspapers and on blogs.)

     The moral of this blog is to use drugs as prescribed by a physician; over-the-counter medications as directed by the manufacturer, a physician or pharmacist; and to not fall into the temptation to use "street drugs." Drugs used correctly can be a positive experience, but being a druggie is a life that is doomed to be non-productive, unhealthy, and often crime filled.

            Chemotherapy, steroids, vitamins, and pain meds are some of the drugs that contributed to             the destruction of the cancer cells, my body's tolerance, and general health. I thank God for the benefits I have received from such medications. 

Thursday, February 13, 2014


February is "Heart Awareness Month" so it is only fitting that I have Pamela Christian as my guest blogger this week. Her story is a remarkable one and her information, medically and spiritually, is valuable for everyone.

Did you know that:
·      Heart Disease —not breast cancer— is the leading cause of death among women in America? 
·      Approximately 500,000 women die from heart disease every year?
·      Heart disease kills more than the next 7 highest causes of death combined?

With numbers like this, it could happen to you or someone you love. Many deaths from heart disease can be prevented, such as I personally experienced.

I am a survivor of sudden cardiac arrest, which is very different from a heart attack. A heart attack is when the heart convulses for lack of oxygen. Sudden cardiac arrest is when the heart abruptly stops—often with little to no warning signs.

In my case what I thought was a case of the nerves because I was about to play tennis with women I’d not met before and wanted to play well enough to be invited back, turned out to be my warning sign. Had I been alone in my home, which was customary that time of day, I wouldn’t be alive. The three women I’d just met along with the paramedics literally saved my life.

It’s estimated that only five percent of witnessed victims survive and many of these with a seriously diminished quality of life. I am a miracle. Although I was dead for at least a full minute before defibrillation restarted my heart, I have no residual health problems. None.

Will you or someone you love be as fortunate? The numbers are not favorable. This is why I devote time “Helping women everywhere become aware,” which is the slogn for my heart disease awareness campaign. You can learn about it and read my full story here.

But beyond increasing knowledge about heart desease, I am also devoted to helping people examine their faith. Based on what I experienced in that time I was gone, I can assure you there is an eternal life we will live when we leave this world.

Examining what we know about heart disease and what we believe in terms of personal faith, could save more than a physical life—it could save an eternal life. That is why I dilligently seek to help people know what they believe and why they believe it, so they can have a confident faith in this life and eternal hope in the life hereafter.

 Pamela Christian is a keynote speaker, published author and host of radio and television. In addition to her Bless Your Heart, Your Health and Your Life e-book, she has authored the first in a three-book series, Examine Your Faith! Finding Truth in a World of Lies, endorsed by Josh McDowell, Dr. Craig Hazen and Dan Story among others. She holds a certificate in apologetics from Biola and has served in ministry for over twenty years. She is available to speak for your organization, increasing awareness, fundraising and/or sharing the gospel message. She and her husband David live in Yorba Linda, CA, with their two grown children living and working nearby. Learn more about Pamela’s ministry work and get her books at www.pamelachristianministries.com or http://pamelachristianministries.com/e-books

Saturday, February 8, 2014


                                    FEBRUARY IS HEART HEALTH MONTH

                                                    MEN'S HEARTS BEAT SLOWER.

Heart disease is the number one killer of men. 

                   * One in four men will die from heart disease.

                   * Half of those men will have no previous symptoms.

                   * It affects almost all ethnic/racial groups.

                   * The risk factors are:
                             Poor diet
                             Excessive alcohol intake

Gentlemen, give the woman you love the best Valentine gifts, which are gifts to yourself as well:

                   Stop smoking
                   Eat more vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and lean sources of protein
                   Maintain a healthy and normal weight for your age and frame
                   Get moving! Exercise.
                   Limit alcoholic drinks to 1-2 per day
                   Decrease stress with relaxation/breathing techniques, positive thinking


                                    THE POWER OF LOVE BINDS THE HEARTS
                                                     OF TWO PEOPLE TOGETHER.


Sunday, February 2, 2014


I am proud to introduce you to Katie Hayoz, an author and mutual Rave Reviews Book Club member. This week I am highlighting her novel Untethered. Some reviews have said, "delightfully surprised," "wonderful," and "solid and surprising." So, I invite you to read the book and submit your own comments here and on Amazon.

                 That Novel Will Never Be Perfect
                           From Katie Hayoz

     I’m not a perfectionist.  Little mistakes don’t bother me.  But when it comes to my writing, I take pride in what I do and I want what I put out there to be not just decent, but good.  I rewrote Untethered at least eighteen times.  Literally.  And I’m talking full-on, rip-it-up and make do with the shreds kind of rewriting, not moving sentences around. What started as a five page story ended up (20 years later) to be a 340 page novel.  That novel went through so many critiquing sessions and beta readers that I was sure it would be perfection by the time it was published.

                                                                   Ha.  Not quite.

   Writing is art, and like all art there is a point where the person creating the work just has to stop. She just has to tell herself that particular piece is the best she can make it right then.  That’s the sticker: right then.  Because the truth is that you can always go back and make it better.  There will always be holes you missed or mistakes you made or words that paint a clearer picture.  But if you keep going back and going back and going back you never move on.  Never get on to the next book; the one that first one prepared you for.

    My dad paints watercolor. I can’t tell you the number of times he’s looked at a picture of his, already framed and on the wall, and said, “Why did I think this was finished? This whole section could use reworking.”  My mom rolls her eyes.  I understand.  I totally do. 

    But there was a point when I just had to quit trying to make Untethered perfect. A point where my writing group and my family and friends said, “Stop already!”  So I did.  I’m proud of this novel -- the characters, the world, the writing itself.  However, that didn’t keep me from face-palming myself after its publication.  There were things that I see now that I couldn’t see then.  It kills me.  And yet…
And yet I could go in, change it all and six months from now I’d be face-palming myself again.  So, I’ve left it as is.  I’ve moved onto another novel.  It’s finished; sort of.  I’ve done three drafts – three pick away the fleshy parts and gnaw on the bone drafts.  I’ll rewrite it one more time. Then I’ll need to tell myself, “Stop already!  That novel will never be perfect.” 

                                                  But I’m hoping it will be damn good. 

Katie Hayoz was born in Racine, WI, USA but ended up in Geneva, Switzerland, where she lives with her husband, two daughters, and two fuzzy cats. She devours YA novels like she does popcorn and black licorice: quickly and in large quantities. 

Untethered is a paranormal coming of age novel that follows 16-year-old Sylvie on a unique and slightly sinister journey of self-acceptance. Sylvie has an ability to leave her physical body and astral project. While it could be akin to a superpower, she sees it as a curse.  That is, until the day she decides to play with its dark side. Sylvie then sets an evil plan in motion that she believes will change her life for the better.  But she does not count on it spiraling out of control.

Connect with Katie:
On her website: www.katiehayoz.com
Buy Untethered on Amazon: http://amzn.to/ZH2qzY

(Thank you to Rave Reviews Book Club and all the members who so generously agreed to host me on their site!)