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My journey as a writer began as a child, but my first published book came as a result of my ovarian cancer diagnosis. The title is Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir which received two awards. All proceeds are donated to gynecologic cancer research. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club. Follow me on Twitter @KIngallsAuthor www.facebook.com/KarenIngalls, and you can find my books at www.amazon.com. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2017.

Thursday, February 19, 2015

AFTER A STORM, A RAINBOW APPEARS



Once a storm has passed, assessment, clean-up, and new beginnings start.

        We all remember the devastation after September 11th, Hurricanes Katrina and Sandy, the tsunami that hit Japan, and many other natural disasters.
                                                                       

         
A fewer number will remember the fear, destruction, and horror of Pearl Harbor, Hiroshima,
                   and the war zones from World War II, Korea, and South VietNam.

         The assasinations of John F. Kennedy, Robert Kennedy, and Martin Luther King continue
                                                   to live in our memories.

We each can share a personal story of our own storms...
        Divorce,
           Death,
              Cancer,
                 Financial ruin,
                    to name a few. 
                    Each story has its own unique challenges...but we will survive and 
                      be better if we have... 




Recently I used the quote from Helen Keller, "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." Sometimes our blinders of self-pity, anger, depression, and resentment get in the way.

             Or, as Nelson Mandela said, "It always seems impossible until it's done."



Some dear friends of mine have been in their own personal "storm" for six long years with no resolution yet in sight. Every morning they start the new day with prayer, devotions, and a smile. They have learned many lessons along this journey and have the faith of Job that their prayers will be answered. They believe the rainbow will appear when the time is right in God's plan. They are an inspiration.

                Faith, hope, and love are necessary to find the rainbow after a storm.


Friday, February 13, 2015

DO I DESERVE THIS?

This guest blog is written by Robin Maupin, a long time survivor of ovarian and endometriosis cancer. She talks about "survivor's guilt" which is a common reaction many men and women experience after being "cured" or in long term remission. My thanks to Robin for sharing her thoughts in a most poignant manner.




   I’ve been extremely blessed to see four of my granddaughters born since my diagnosis of ovarian and endomemtrial cancer in 1997. 


                                       I’ve survived 16 years after my diagnosis. 

   In those years, I have lost countless friends in the cancer community. I’ve recently been thinking a lot about why I am here and they aren’t. When we’re diagnosed, we ask why did this happen to me? What did I do wrong? Similarly, when we survive, I think it’s normal to ask why? Why did I survive when so many have not?

    Statements have been made to me by well-meaning people whose explanation for it is simple:       “God has a plan for you”, or “You must’ve done something right.” As if I were more deserving to live than anyone else? I don’t accept this. In fact, there are little niggling thoughts that come into my head that say, “you’re undeserving." “What have you done to deserve to still be here?” “How do you justify your survival?” 

    Have I always made healthy choices physically, emotionally and spiritually these last 16 years? Absolutely not. It’s called survivor’s guilt. Yup. I have it. It’s not commonly discussed among survivors. I think it’s because it seems somewhat self-indulgent. The unspoken message is “just be grateful and move on.” Not so simple.

   So, is the word “deserve” even appropriate here? Deserve implies some reward for something done. According to the dictionary deserve means to merit, be qualified for, or have a claim to (reward, assistance, punishment, etc.) because of actions, qualities, or situation. Am I deserving? I’m just a flawed human being – albeit somewhat more enlightened now – trying my best to be a good person. 

   
Cancer, just like life, doesn’t really have any rhyme or reason. Some die, some don’t. Surviving cancer, while it’s something to be very grateful for, is not like winning a game, being a victor. At least not for me. I came through a war. I survived. I lost comrades. There were fallen warriors along the way. The losses are too great to celebrate victory. I’m here. I’m neither more or less deserving to live than they were. We all had lots to live for and the desire to survive, especially the young women with their whole lives ahead of them and young children to raise. I’m here. They’re not. There is no reasoning.

   All I know is that living my life as best I can is a memorial to all you have passed on before me, and I will never walk away from the cause. 

    I do it for them. 
     I do it for myself. 
     And I do it for all of the women who have yet to be diagnosed
      And who will be where I was---      
         Fighting for their lives.
          Do I deserve this? I absolutely do,
             But so did all of the other wonderful women who didn’t.


Thank you, Robin, for your very informative, touching, and inspiring message. Your words are a blessing to many. 

Certified Professional Cancer Survivorship Coach
Womens' Cancer Connection

Thursday, February 5, 2015

LOVE IS LIKE A BUTTERFLY...



               "Love is like a butterfly: It goes where it pleases and pleases wherever it goes."


                                                    WHAT IS LOVE?

An intense feeling of deep affection. We recognize it when we experience it...and we know what it is not.

My grandparents had it...
     It is what I feel for my husband, children, grandchildren, and great grandchild...
         I feel it for God and know He feels it for me.
              I love myself.





       SHOW LOVE EVERYDAY TO THOSE IN YOUR LIFE...
Love is not just about hearts, flowers, jewelry and chocolate on Feb. 14th.




   

                               SHOW LOVE TO YOUR NEIGHBORS...

           Treat them with the same kind of love you want to receive from them.           


        BRING LOVE INTO YOUR DAILY LIVING...That is part of healing ourselves and others.


SUPER BOWL COMMERCIALS ENCOURAGING & SHOWING LOVE:

                  McDonald's special "pricing" through Feb. 14 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iq2Sm2XGv_s

                  Elderly people with one sentence words of how to live (Dodge wisdom) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wpRvMT9aUb0
                   


FOR THE LAST FEW WEEKS WE HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT HEALING FROM WITHIN...PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND SPIRITUALITY. TO HEAL, BEGINS WITH      

                                             LOVE


LET'S EACH BE LIKE THE BUTTERFLY THE MONTH OF FEBRUARY AND BRING LOVE TO EACH PERSON, EVENT, AND TO OURSELVES.