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Ovarian cancer will be diagnosed in 1 of 72 women; 14,000 will die. Please know the symptoms and risk factors: read Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir. Books at www.amazon.com. ALL PROCEEDS GO TO GYNECOLOGIC CANCER RESEARCH. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club and Rave Writer's International Society of Authors, and Patient Leadership Council for Tesaro, Inc. I WILL NOT USE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS FOR ANY OTHER PURPOSE THAN CONTACTING YOU DIRECTLY. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2018.

Friday, July 31, 2015


When you hear the word RETREAT what comes to mind?
           Do you think of a military action when the troops retreat or go back?
           Or do visualize a person living alone, avoiding outside contact?
           Or a monk who lives a solitary life communing with and living solely for God?
           Or a group of people who gather together at a special place for a certain purpose?

The purpose of this blog is to discuss the value of attending a retreat to grow spiritually, heal physically, mentally, and spiritually with a group, and to learn some life lessons.

Some forty years ago I attended a "Marriage Enrichment" retreat, which helped my husband and I to see and understand some areas of communication we needed to improve upon. It was a growing and learning experience.

I was a counselor several times at "Church Camps" for the high school aged young people. It was a week long event of fun and games, trysts, and small group sessions. It was an opportunity for the youth to explore, discuss, and receive insight into their thoughts, opinions, questions, and behaviors. Over the years I would hear from many of them how helpful the church camp experience was for them to grow into healthy, happy, and well adjusted individuals.

A very dear friend of mine attends a Men's Retreat every year, and he has been attending it for over forty years (or could be longer). It is a prayerful time of silence and reflection. It is very healing as he communes intimately with God, receiving advice, encouragement, peace, and a new sense of renewal.

One of my "teal sisters"sent me information about a retreat called "Women With Cancer." We are teal sisters because we both have been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. It has never worked out for me to attend this event though I would like to someday. Here is information about it:

                             Women With Cancer: Spiritual Exercises and Prayer
                                                           Sept. 17, 2015
                      Retreat begins Thursday at 5:30 pm and ends Sunday at 1:30 pm
               "A silent retreat based on the spiritual exercises of St. Ignatius, with a special 
                                  emphasis on Healing for women with Cancer."
                                                         REGISTER AT:
                   1200 Lantana St., Corpus Christi, TX 78407  361-289-9095, ext. 321

Retreats are very special ways to receive spiritual growth, healing, and learning experiences.

Wednesday, July 22, 2015


I am proud and pleased to introduce Dr. Michelle Bengtson as my guest
blogger this week. She is a renowned and inspirational speaker who
shares her story of finding God in her life. 

If I asked you to describe yourself in three words, what would you say? Take a moment and write down your first thoughts without taking the time to think things through.

                          For most of my earlier years, I would have answered this way:
                                                        I am...
                                                                                                            A doctor
                                                                                                            A volunteer
                                                                                                            A writer

                   Does my answer really describe who I am? Or, is it rather what I do?

For as long as I can remember, I was a “do-er.” I saw my role in life as the person who jumped in and did more whenever times were hard or something went wrong. When my father passed away while I was a teenager, my family struggled financially so I jumped in to help.

It was during those times when I was the most vulnerable that I listened to the enemy of my soul as he whispered his lies.
         Lies like: “How can God say He loves you when He took your father from you?”
                    Or “Now that your father is no longer here, it is up to you to support your family."

           I began to believe that I could not depend on anyone but myself, not even God.

This thought process continued until I was devastated and bed-ridden by a life-threatening illness. I could no longer see patients and perform my duties as a doctor. Actually, I could not “do” anything because I could not get out of bed for months.

                                                      I no longer knew who I was.

           In the midst of an identity crisis, I was desperate for the Lord and cried out to Him.

While bed-ridden and stuck in a quiet room, I was finally able to hear the voice of the Lord. He said, I do not love you for what you do. I never asked you to do. I love you for who you are, because you are mine. I love you. End. Of. Story.

All those years, I had listened to lies instead of asking the Lord what He thought of me. At the same time, I realized that although I had been saved since a young child, I never really knew the Lord.

                         My identity was based on what I did, not who I belonged to.
                         I depended on myself instead of depending on the Lord.
                         When we depend on the Lord, we realize we were created in His image.

Have you ever asked Him what He thinks of you? Have you asked Him to let you see yourself the way He sees you? Are you willing to listen to Him, agree with Him, and let go of the way you see yourself?

                             Take some time each day and pray, asking God:
                                   To give you an accurate perspective of Him,
                                                        Show you how He sees you,
                                   And, to help you see yourself the way He sees you.

                 Search the Word for the promises that He uses to describe who you are.

He says you are secure. You are free from condemnation. “Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set you free from the law of sin and of death.” Romans 8:1-2

He says you are accepted. You are His child. “But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name.” 1 John 1:12

He says you are significant. You are His workmanship. “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10

We were created in His image. When we stand on His word and the truth of how He sees us, we will reflect His image.
                             Are you ready to see yourself through the eyes of God?

Because of Him, Hope Prevails my friend,
Dr. Michelle Bengtson

For more hope, stay connected with me at:
Twitter: http://www.Twitter.com/DrMBengtson (@DrMBengtson)
Author, speaker and board certified clinical neuropsychologist, Dr. Michelle Bengtson is also a wife, mother and friend. She knows pain and despair firsthand and combines her professional expertise and personal experience with her faith to address issues surrounding medical and mental disorders, both for those who suffer and for those who care for them. She offers sound practical tools, affirms worth, and encourages faith. Dr. Bengtson offers hope as a key to unlock joy and relief—even in the middle of the storm. She blogs regularly on her own site: http://www.DrMichelleBengtson.com

Saturday, July 11, 2015


                    "Regrets, I've had a few, 
                      but then again too few to mention.
                      I did what I had to do and saw it through without exception.
                      I planned each chartered course, each careful step along the byway
                     And more, much more than this, I did it my way.

These are some of the lyrics from the song made famous by Frank Sinatra, My Way.

Regrets are choices each of us made that we wish we would have done differently. And, such regrets can hold us back in all aspects of our lives...physically, emotionally/mentally, and spiritually. The best way to heal is to first forgive ourselves, and then take the next step, which is recognize, acknowledge and learn from the event or decision. 

I did things my way, which now means I assume responsibility and cannot put the onus on anyone else. As I take on responsibility, I forgive myself, and can move on to learning. Now my life can be fuller, richer, and healthier.

Too often I hear people blame others, society, or the legal system. This is not healthy or even necessarily the case most of the time.

I used to regret and blame others for my not going to the doctor right away when I developed the abdominal bloating. It was a completely different health manifestation I had ever experienced, and yet I rationalized it is "just post-menopausal." I have forgiven myself and used what I learned to try to teach women about "listening to their bodies."

According to Forbes, here are some of the most common regrets:

  1. Working too much at the expense of family and friends.
  2. Staying in touch with friends.
  3. Turning off the phone.
  4. Worrying too much about what other people think.
  5. Lacking self confidence.
  6. Not living my life as I wanted, but as my parents wanted.
  7. Taking life too seriously.
  8. Burying the hatchet with old friend or family member.
  9. Not trusting my "inner voice" more.
  10. Taking better care of my health.
Life is short, do not waste it on regrets. Forgive yourself and learn. It is never too late to make changes. Friends, family, counselors, and pastors are all people who can help and support you as you move into a healthier and happier life.

                     "There is only one success: To be able to spend your life in your own way."

**I invite you to go to www.watermanwellness.com sometime this month and watch my short interview for world cancer day. Would love to hear your feedback!

**My more recent article for "Hormones Matter" is now published at http://www.hormonesmatter.com/causes-ovarian-cancer/

Thursday, July 2, 2015


My thanks to Haley Dubin for her recent guest blog about nutrition. I hope all will follow her website at www.revivewellness.com.      

I invite you to read "What Causes Ovarian Cancer"an article I wrote for Hormones Matter http://www.hormonesmatter.com/causes-ovarian-cancer/

I recently had a conversation with a group of women and somehow the conversation got around to our bodies…rather typical of women! This time it was not just about our increased wrinkles, gray hair, and “drooping body parts.” We started talking about our body parts below the waist. Of the five of us, three were in the 50-60 age group while two were 60-80 years old. It was the latter group who got quiet and only shared the amusing and uninformed ways their mothers talked to them about the birds and the bees. They admitted they did not have any better conversations with their daughters. The younger group were more informed and have done the same for their daughters. I believe that my granddaughters aged 14-30 are open and educated.
                                                 Let’s talk about the lady parts!

"Have I just gained weight? Am I distended? Am I pregnant?" Are questions any woman might ask when her abdomen gets larger.

                BLOATING OR AN ENLARGED ABDOMEN can be caused by:

                                                  Eating fatty foods                      
                                                  Stress or anxiety,                     
                                                  Irritable bowel syndrome                      
                                                  Lactose intolerance,                      
                                                  Celiac disease,

                                        OR IT IS A SYMPTOM OF OVARIAN CANCER

"An increase in my dress/pant size and looking like I was 3 months pregnant was my only sign for what turned out to be a large cancerous tumor. I thought it was part of being post-menopausal and even though I exercised more and ate less fattening foods, the bloating did not change."

                     SEE YOUR M.D. IF THIS SYMPTOM PERSISTS FOR MORE THAN          
                                                                   TWO WEEKS.
                            Keep track on a calendar...an important step towards better health.

                                       RESEARCH YOUR FAMILY HISTORY FOR:
                                        BREAST, COLON, OR OVARIAN CANCERS 

Bloating is the most common symptom for ovarian cancer, sometimes accompanied by burping, passing gas or pain. The Gas-X commercial instructs the woman in the dressing room that all she needs to do is take Gas-X to relieve her bloating. If it is an occasional event that lasts only a few days, then yes, that might be one solution, but not if it lasts on a daily basis for two weeks!

According to M.D. Anderson: "Women often feel bloated after eating or drinking a lot, especially during their menstrual cycles. But a woman may have ovarian cancer, if she continues to feel bloated for more than two weeks or after her period ends." http://www.mdanderson.org/newsroom/news-releases/2012/cancersymptomswomen.html.

Women, young and old, know your body and listen, then respond to its warning signs. Remember bloating is a common symptom for many disorders and diseases, but also for ovarian cancer as well.

"I am scared to go to the doctor." A friend recently said to me when I saw her for the first time after a few months. "It is nothing. I am just fat," she continued. I listened to her complaints of pain, how the swelling had increased over the past two months, and yet how she has decreased her caloric intake and tried to exercise more. 
We talked about how every organ in her body could be affected by this increased bloating and the importance of seeing her physician as soon as possible. Again she repeated her fears of what the doctor might say. 
By the time our visit ended she agreed to go see her doctor. I hugged her and said, "Now you have taken the first step in conquering your fear and taking control of your own health."

Most of us experience bloating at various times and it is the body's normal response to what we have eaten. However, my bloating continued for two months before I went to my doctor. The "honeydew melon" sized tumor was found. I waited two months too long because of fear and ignorance.

Learn more about ovarian cancer at www.outshineovariancancer.com.