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Thursday, September 8, 2016

TALKING BELOW THE BELT

                           In our society we are quite open to talk about all our body parts,
                                 EXCEPT WHAT IS BELOW THE BELT OR WAIST



All too often women become embarrassed or uncomfortable discussing any symptoms such as          unusual vaginal discharge, itchiness or redness in the peritoneum, painful intercourse, or menstruation complications. The younger generation is becoming more comfortable than we older women. Yet they will have names for their body parts that are not recognizable by the medical community.

                                           Here is an example of words for vagina:
                      cunt, pussy, slit. beaver, twat, peach, muff, plus 231 more such names.

                                            Here is a list of words used for uterus:
                                womb, family jewels, matrix, venter, plus many more


Where such names come from is anybody's guess. Many of them are vulgar and offensive.
So why do we use such names rather than the common one like vagina? I think it goes back to our Victorian history and women have been purely objects of sex for so many hundreds to thousands of years. We just got the vote in the early 1900's because we were not considered smart or worthy enough to vote before. A woman was chased by the man and expected to grant his every wish, married or not.

It has only been in more recent history that physicians have routinely been involved in a woman's pregnancies. Women were often put in seclusion during their menstrual periods because they were considered unclean.

The rising statistics of breast cancer and the actions by the Susan B. Komen organization brought enough fear to women to pay attention to their breasts. It has taken many years and a lot of advertising, seminars, celebrity endorsements for women to be comfortable talking about anything with their breasts. More women readily get mammograms, have breast examinations by a physician, or do self breast exams.

Now we need to do the same for those body parts below our waistline. There are 22,000 women a year diagnosed with ovarian cancer; 13,000 with cervical cancer, and 60,000 with uterine cancer.  Ovarian cancer will claim the lives of 70%; 4,000 deaths from cervical cancer; and uterine cancer will claim the lives of 10,000 women.

                      WE NEED TO TALK, TO SHARE, TO LISTEN TO OUR BODIES 
                                   AND WE NEED TO EDUCATE OUR CHILDREN

                Here is an interesting article about calling our body parts by their true names:


Sexual-health education needs to call body parts by their names
LORI BROTTO
Contributed to The Globe and Mail
Published Thursday, Aug. 25, 2016 11:22AM EDT
Last updated Friday, Aug. 26, 2016 2:34PM EDT   

Back-to-school is just around the corner, and that means another round of school-based sexual health education. I hope this also doesn’t mean another round of the debate that raged a few months ago when Ontario reformed its sex-education program, including recommending the use of proper names of the genitals. In response to protests, some schools offered to use the term “private parts” when teaching Grade 1 students.
This makes me cringe.
We do not call the ear a “dingle” or the nose a “sniffy,” so why refer to genitalia as anything but their actual names?
When I have pressed people for their reasoning behind using cutesy names such as “down there” or a host of other euphemisms for genitalia, a common response has been that they sound too scientific. As a scientist, let me assure you that vagina, vulva, penis and scrotum are not scientific terms – they are simply anatomical terms, just like elbow and shin.
We seem to have become lazy in our terminology, and at the same time, our general societal discomfort with sexuality, especially the sexuality of children, perpetuates this problem. And yet, the words themselves are not sexualized. It is our fear of making them sexualized that casts a cloud of dirtiness around them.
By referring to genital anatomy by anything but their proper terms, we are implicitly communicating to children that those parts should not be talked about. The negative implications of this can include a general embarrassment about sexuality that produces barriers for healthy sex-related communication in the long-term. There is also evidence that children who are not embarrassed about their own body part names are more likely to have a healthy view of sexuality as an adult. A more catastrophic consequence of this may be a reluctance to report sexual abuse when it is occurring.
Despite the protests, it seems that most parents agree with this idea. The 2015 Ontario Edition of Questions and Answers regarding sexual-health education in the schools, which was developed by the Sex Information and Education Council of Canada, summarized a large survey of parents and declared that parents wanted sexual health education at school to include the teaching of proper terms for genital anatomy.
Their wishes also concur with the experts who drew up the Canadian Guidelines for Sexual Health Education, which recommends that “age-appropriate sexual health education should be provided from the beginning of elementary school to the end of high school.” It also adopts a model that weaves accurate information together with addressing the student’s motivation, as well as their skills in order to reduce sexual risk, prevent negative sexual-health outcomes and enhance sexual health. The provision of accurate information is, therefore, essential.
We are confusing children by using incorrect terms for their genital anatomy, and then introducing the proper terms a few years later when educating on sexual activity and intercourse.
Lori Brotto, a registered psychologist, is a professor of gynecology at the University of British Columbia and executive director of the Women’s Health Research Institute. You can follow her on Twitter @DrLoriBrotto.


The purpose of this blog is only to promote awareness, discussion, and openness about our sexual body parts. When we women become comfortable with our sexual organs, know the diseases associated with them, and how to prevent or decrease the risk of such diseases, then we have come a long way in reducing the cancer statistics listed above.

September is National Ovarian Cancer Month. Do you know the symptoms? Do you know the risk factors? Do you know your family history? Do you share with your partner, family, or physician any concerns, even slight ones, about your vagina, menstrual period, clitoris, etc.? 

          LOVE YOUR LADY PARTS BELOW THE BELT
                             KNOWLEDGE IS POWER
                                                 

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