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Ovarian cancer will be diagnosed in 1 of 72 women; 14,000 will die. Please know the symptoms and risk factors: read Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir. Books at www.amazon.com. ALL PROCEEDS GO TO GYNECOLOGIC CANCER RESEARCH. I am a member of Rave Reviews Book Club and Rave Writer's International Society of Authors, and Patient Leadership Council for Tesaro, Inc. I WILL NOT USE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS FOR ANY OTHER PURPOSE THAN CONTACTING YOU DIRECTLY. ALL ORIGINAL CONTENT COPYRIGHT 2011 THROUGH 2018.

Sunday, May 28, 2017


What comes to mind when you hear the word "Honor"?  How would you define it?

There is the military Code of Honor which is drilled into the soldiers from their first day. The Warrior's Code of Honor  "is in war it means to give your word of honor to do your duty...your word...your honor whilst standing face to face with Death gives meaning and purpose to life..." 

On September 19, 2010, while clearing a path for United States Army Rangers in Kandahar, Mast took a wrong step into an IED along the road. The explosion resulted in the amputation of both his legs and one of his fingers. His actions were honorable and heroic.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Mast

Honor is often used in commercials saying "It would be my honor...." to provide some kind of commercial service. 

Or, "It is an honor to be your friend...." which I have said and heard from others.

In Rave Reviews Book Club each month we have "Spotlight Honors" for authors whose work deserve special recognition.

A quote from Lisa Cicciarelli, "I consider it a privilege to honor and celebrate the thousands who represent our future of a world free from the pain and suffering of cancer." at a Relay for Life event in New York.

Some Reading Suggestions for Memorial Weekend: 
              "We Were Soldiers Too" a series of three books by Bob Kern
              "MIA: A Hero's Return" by Frank Pisani
              "Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival" by Laura Hellenbrand            

On this Monday, May 29 we celebrate Memorial Day by honoring those who have served our country from the very first war through today. Let's make it more than a day at the beach, a BBQ, or a family gathering. Let's make it a day of truly honoring our military and thanking them for their sacrifices.

And, it is my hope that when we use the word honor we use it with the intentions of honesty,  ethics, and sincerity. Honoring someone must include these three things plus LOVE.

                                          Wishing you a most blessed Memorial Day.

Sunday, May 21, 2017



HOPE IS...living with courage and confidence, not fear.  
                                                                                  (Penny Boldrey, cancer survivor)

HOPE IS...being able to see that there is light despite all the darkness around.
                                                                                  (Desmond Tutu)

HOPE IS...accepting finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.
                                                                                  (Rev. Martin Luther King)

Whenever we are faced with a challenge (illness, divorce, job loss, untimely death, etc) we always have a choice to make: how are we going to face it? 

             1. Will we give up before we even begin to fight?
             2. We will blame God, others, or doctors and not take on any self-responsibility?
             3. Will we try to be better people? Help others? Learn from our situation?

Cancer is certainly not the only challenge a person could face, yet it creates more fear than any other disease or disaster. Hope is the key to each of the individuals here below:

My dear friend, Marilyn (left) faced her journey with ovarian cancer 
with humor, optimism, and died with dignity.

This young girl will do a ballet dance despite her loss of her ability
to use her legs. She and the wheelchair will dance!

Tim Nurse hopes to be back on the ice rink after winning the game
against mantle cell Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma cancer.

What can we do to help people keep their hopes alive? 
     1. Support them with love and positivity.
       2. Financially donate to research and help to families.
       3. Encourage them with your presence and help.
       4. Pray for them.

I encourage financial donations to any and all of the following:
            Dr. Robert Holloway's ovarian cancer research program at Florida South Hospital
                     Cancer Institute.
            Ovarian Cancer Research Fund
            St. Jude Children's Research Hospital
            GoFundMe.com for Tim Nurse https://www.gofundme.com/timnurse

All proceeds from the sale of my book, "Outshine: An Ovarian Cancer Memoir" goes to Dr. Holloway's cancer research program.
For a signed paperback copy, please contact me at kareningalls1941@gmail.com or purchase an ebook at https://www.amazon.com/Outshine-Ovarian-Cancer-Karen-Ingalls-ebook/dp/B00KI1HGZI/ref=sr_1_10?ie=UTF8&qid=1495382166&sr=8-10&keywords=ovarian+cancer+books

Monday, May 15, 2017


I ask the question, "Who am I?" We are each unique in our personalities, which I find amazingly beautiful. We can stand out in a crowd or be one to blend in and not be particularly noticed. How we become the person we are is a fascinating journey. 

As I was driving down the road yesterday I looked at the various cars passing by or alongside me. I suddenly realized how most cars all look very much alike. There might be some variation with taillights, headlights, size and placement of windows, but all in all they are fairly similar...just like us! 

Have you noticed how the Cadillac and Jaguar no longer have their distinct looks that any of us could easily recognize? The newer models all look like other cars.

                          One car that has maintained its unique look and style is Corvette:

Its low sleek body has changed very little since the first one rolled off the production lines in 1953. No matter the year of production, its unique low to the ground, headlight placement, and two passenger style is easy to recognize.

Then a Volkswagen Beetle pulled up next to me at a stoplight. Now, there is a car uniquely different from all the other cars...and it always has been. It truly stands out. From 1938 to 2003, the two door, 4 passenger Bug was available with its engine in the rear. Such a revolutionary new concept from the traditional long and big sedans of the United States.
There are those of us that are so unique and different, we stand out in a group. Do you remember Tiny Tim from the 1980's? He played the ukulele and sang "Tip Through the Tulips" mainly in a falsetto voice. Due to his unique persona and style he stood out from other performers and was easily recognized. He built his career on his uniqueness.

We each have our different personalities. According to Webster's Dictionary a personality is "a combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character." How do we develop our personalities? Is it genetic, familial, life events, influence of other people?

Most psychologists agree that these two factors—temperament and environment—influence the development of a person's personality the most. Temperament, with its dependence on genetic factors, is sometimes referred to as "nature," while the environmental factors are called "nurture."

There are stages in the development of our personality: infancy, toddler, preschool, school, and adolescence.

Some people have taken the Multiple Minnesota Personality Inventory, which was first published in 1943. It has gone through several revisions and is still used today to assess personality and psychopathology. I took the test a couple of times as part of a pre-employment requirement.

According to the Myers-Briggs test I am an INFJ, which is the rarest personality type. It appears to be a very common personality among writers. It is a simple test and you might learn something about yourself! I direct you to this link https://storyempire.com/2017/05/10/personality-types-and-writers/?c=2933#comment-2933 for a most interesting read about personality types and writers by the very talented author, Mae Clair, who is also a member of Rave Reviews Book Club. From her blog it was discovered how may of us writers are INFJ's.

The personality test Enneagram seems to be more about what kind of a person you are. It divides the personality into nine categories, which has in itself raised some controversy. Despite the controversial viewpoints, it is a method of self-understanding. I show to be "The Helper."

There is the theory that we are either Type A or Type B personalities. The "A's" were time driven, anxious, impatient whereas the "B's" were relaxed, more reflective, and non-competitive. This theory is not as well accepted because of the small number of people in the study.

The message from this blog is that we are each a uniquely beautiful human being. The important part of this look at personalities is how we contribute to society, interact with others, and how happy or content with who we are. We can make changes if we want to. We can learn to be more outgoing or more shy; to be more assertive or more laid back; or to be more of a leader or a follower. Whatever changes we choose to make they must be true to our essence.


Thank you, Mae Clair for your contribution to this blog. I encourage you to go to her website and check out her books. https://maeclair.net/blog/

Saturday, May 6, 2017



There may not be a pot of gold in the literal sense, but rainbows symbolize opportunities to be healthier, happier, and more complete. In Native American culture some tribes believe the
rainbow is a bridge between the spiritual and human world; Buddhists believe the seven colors represent the seven continents. In Irish culture a rainbow is synonymous with a pot of gold; and in the Polish culture the pots of gold are a gift from angels. Christians believe that the rainbow is a sign from God that the world will not be destroyed by a flood again and in the book of Revelations it is a sign of the second coming of Jesus.

I believe there are seven lessons to be learned from a rainbow. My thanks to www.colorpsychology .org and Dr. Jennifer Kunst for her article "Seven Strategies To Truly Be Here Now."

RED is the first color of a rainbow. It has the highest wavelength with each subsequent color 
         decreasing in wavelength. In Christianity this arc corresponds to Archangel Uriel which 
         represents wisdom and energy. In modern day Buddhism and Hinduism the red arc  
         corresponds with the base chakra, which is the first chakra that connects a human to the 
         physical plane. 

                   #1. Turn toward reality. Don't turn away from life, but towards it.

ORANGE represents creativity and the ability to enjoy oneself.  It is the second chakra which 
         is associated with fertility, sexuality, and creativity.

                  #2 Embrace your life as it is rather than as you wish it to be.

YELLOW is associated with Archangel Jophiel which represents the brilliance of wisdom and
                  thoughts. According to the chakra beliefs of Buddhists and Hindus, it is the seat
                  man's ego and personal power.

                 #3 Take your time.Slow, disciplined, incremental growth is the kind
                       of approach that leads to lasting change.

GREEN  is the fourth color and represents health, wealth, and love. It is where love is given
               and received.

                   #4 Practice gratitude; it is a recipe for emotional health and well-being.

BLUE is the fifth color and is associated with Archangel Michael who represents spirituality.
           Within the chakra belief system it is in the throat area and is where the ability to
           speak with purity resides.

                   #5 Stay close to your feelings, even the painful ones. We need our feelings to
                         find satisfaction, meaning, and pleasure in life.

INDIGO represents the bridge between the conscious and subconscious. It is called the 
              third eye in Buddhism and Hinduism; the ability to see the unseen on the 
              spiritual level.

                     #6 Accept success and failure as part of life's journey. We are all learning.
                          No one gets it right every time. A more compassionate attitude towards
                          ourselves only helps us grow.

VIOLET  is the final color and has the lowest wavelength. It is a mixture of red and blue and
               represents mercy. It is the highest chakra point where human consciousness
               connects with the Divine.

                    #7 Tend to your loving relationships. These relationships don't just happen
                         magically; they grow and are sustained through attentive care and 
                         sometimes hard work.

                Thank you for visiting this blog today. I welcome your thoughts and comments.