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Thursday, May 3, 2018


My mother faced death many times and had three near-death experiences. She said, "There is nothing about death to fear." In the last year I have had several friends and a family member pass away. It is always difficult for those of us left behind, but I am at peace knowing that they are free of pain.
In our society we tend to not talk about our own mortality, but it is a reality. I believe the more we have dialogue about our individual beliefs, questions, or fears the healthier we each will be living for whatever time we have on earth.  (Karen Ingalls)

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It is my pleasure and privilege to welcome Tina Frisco, author, blogger, singer-songwriter, RN, activist, who daily deals with a chronic illness. Death is a difficult thing to face, but Tina puts a different face on it.

                                       On Facing Death
Facing death is a life-changing experience and one that most of us fear. The first time I faced this monster, I paced and cried, ranted and cursed its arrogance. The second time, I tightened my mid-section and refused to acknowledge it; but I couldn’t sleep. The third time, I took in a deep breath, sat down, and closed my eyes. In a flash, I saw myriad lifetimes pass before me – incarnations I was fortunate to have lived.
What is it about physical death that throws so many of us into a tailspin of grief, anger, and denial? Is it not knowing whether life continues beyond the body? Is it not knowing what awaits us on the other side? Is it not wanting to leave the glorious sensations afforded us on the physical plane? Whether or not we believe in an afterlife, death is often viewed as The Grim Reaper.
Not believing in life after death implies that spirit – the dynamic force animating us – dies with the physical body. But that scenario begs the question: Where did spirit come from in the first place? It can’t be traced scientifically in the same way we trace a being from zygote to birth. So is spirit a mere product or side effect of brainwaves and a heartbeat? In contrast, believing in life after death is based solely on faith. Or is it?
Enlightened beings walking among us speak of the other side in many different ways and languages, vividly describing the magnificent beauty awaiting us. They proclaim to travel back and forth at will.

The gap between living with a foot in two worlds and faith alone is bridged by experience. Many religious leaders profess the certainty of heaven, paradise, nirvana, as well as hell, hades, the netherworld. Yet most of them have never traveled to any of these places and returned to tell the tale. Again, we could argue that those who claim to go to the faraway and return are charlatans. That is until we speak and work with them. That is until we experience this ourselves.
I’ve had many moments of experiencing the other side and returning. And they were just that – moments in time. I suspect this is due to a belief that growth occurs slowly. Yet I know change can occur in a split second and not merely as a result of developing growth. Take, for example, the mother who lifts an automobile off of her child. Seconds before this, she most likely would have laughed at the prospect, believing herself incapable. Since beliefs are embedded by a lifetime of coding, such an act cannot be attributed to a mere surge of adrenaline or the mere wish for her child to survive.
So how did she accomplish this impossible feat? Consider the 90% of brain power we allow to sit idle. Could tapping into this be the answer? If we accessed the full capabilities of our brains, might we see the infinite possibilities of The Universe? Might we then know, without a doubt, what lies beyond the physical?
And what of the soul? Is there a difference between soul and spirit? Here’s a snippet of conversation between two characters in my latest novel, Vampyrie:
W’Hyani: The soul is life. It is who we are in a physical body. The spirit is what the physical body has dwelling within. It is part of The Divine and connects us to The Divine. The soul and the spirit are wed but are not the same.
Phoebe: So the soul is our psyche – that which makes us who we are as human beings. And the spirit is our essence – that which we are without a body, that which animates the body, and that which is immaterial to the body.
The soul is who we are in a physical body. Could it be that our souls keep a tight rein on our spirits? When we incarnate, we must forget who we truly are in order to accomplish the lessons we came here to learn. Perhaps the soul is the guardian of the portal to enlightenment, granting access if and only when our lessons have been completed.
W’Hyani lives with a foot in two worlds and has experienced traveling to the faraway and returning. When our spirits span the divide between here and there, we clearly see the dreaming brain as a function of the physical, as well as the mastermind of the illusion we’ve come to know as reality. When seated in the faraway, we know we have come home to the absolute, to the truth of who we are. We feel the expansiveness of The Universe and know ourselves as an integral part of – rather than separate from – The Divine. We sit in knowing rather than in faith or belief.
I no longer see death as a monster, nor do I fear it. If there is any fear left in me, it’s relative to missing the first chirping of the birds in spring, the glorious sunsets over the ocean, the mysterious winking of the moon through drifting fog.
Life on Mother Earth is relative and ephemeral. Pausing to breathe and close our eyes, if only for a moment, draws us into the omniscient and eternal realm of spirit and allows us to sense the infinite breadth of existence.
I wish for all of you, my dear friends, release from the fear of death and the experience of living with a foot in two worlds…
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 This is a reblog from John Fioravanti's blog dated May 30, 2017


  1. Wonderful message Karen, I say Amen and Amen to that. I sometimes find myself saying, “why me God?” I really don’t quite know why I’m still walking the face of this earth. I have seen at least a half dozen episodes which could have terminated my life, but The Good Lord has seen me through and I continually sing his praises thanking him for all he has bestowed on me.
    A comment sent to me. It is so beautifully written that I want to share with others.

  2. Stellar post Tina. The part about not even tapping into 90% of our brain makes a ton of sense. And also I think that as much as we sometimes believe in the afterlife and have had examples and incidences in our live with spirit, we still tend to be skeptical about afterlife. Great passage from Vampyrie, I loved that book. And I also loved this - beliefs are embedded by a lifetime of coding, so true! <3 xxx

  3. This is such a delightful surprise, Karen. When we encounter the challenge of facing death, many close their hearts in denial. This is not true of you. Your heart is open to giving, receiving, loving. I am so honored that you found my words illuminating. Thank you so much for sharing my post, my sweet friend. Love and hugs to you ❤️

  4. Thank you for your wonderful comment, Debby. Your own experience with facing death has opened you to life's infinite possibilities. Hugs, my lovely friend ❤️

  5. Tina, I have been wanting to post your blog for some time, but it never seemed quite the right time! I have received several personal comments in the email, all of which have been positive. My thanks to you, Tina for beautifully writing on such an important subject.
    I return love, hugs, and prayers to you.

  6. Debby, thank you for sharing your thoughts and positive support. I believe our skepticism about an afterlife is still based on a glimmer of doubt which creates fear. All the more reason we need to have dialogue with our family and friends.

  7. Aw, Karen, I wish I could hug you right now ❤️

  8. It is amazing how much we-all fear death. As you say, the dead are surely happier. We are left, alive and alone. I think this gal-darn disease I have has leeched from me my fear of death but I won't really know until it's upon me. Then, I will remember thoughts such as yours and others I've had to remind myself there is nothing to fear.

  9. Over the years, the more I have read, discussed, and "researched" about death, the less fear I have. I enjoy life so I am not ready to die, but when my quality of life is gone then death will be welcome.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Kali. It is nice to meet you.

  10. This is such a beautiful and inspiring post. I would say that our fear of death comes from the unknown. It's much like life when we embark in a new direction (the unknown). The other part of it is the thought of leaving behind those we love so much. I cry each time I think about saying a final farewell to my beautiful daughters and grandchildren. But, I know the time will come. And, they will grieve and then they will move on living, but always remembering. Thank you for sharing Tina's post, Karen. And I know that you have had to face this in your own life as well. You are both an inspiration to me. Hugs!

  11. Thank you, Kali. I hope your good days outnumber the bad. Focus your intention on the Light. It is an amazing healer of heart and spirit, which can in turn heal the body ❤️

  12. Aw Jan, thank you for such a lovely comment. Fear of the unknown can be devastating. Learning to walk with a foot in two worlds moves us from fear into light and love. I'm grateful to be sharing this journey with you, sister ❤️

  13. Inspiring and uplifting post, Tina! <3 Sharing...

  14. A wonderful post, Tina. I had two sets of parents in this life and was unlucky to lose my wonderful Mam, Adeline, too soon. For ten years I wandered through life struck by a grief I'd never felt before. Since then I've lost all my parents and even now writing this my heart is sad, I don't fear death as such what I fear is not seeing them on the other side, not meeting with them again. I know they are around me at times I sometimes see them but I hear their voices and the scents and feelings of when they hug me. xxx

  15. Interesting post, Tina. I admire the calm with which you now face death, after confronting it already three times. I guess it's the one thing that we know for sure. Death is our destination. We just don't know how we'll get there or when. I wish you a safe and fantastic journey.

  16. I can connect with your thoughts Tina...death does scare us the first time we encounter it. This monster left me shattered with unanswered questions when I was just 12, having snatched my dad suddenly, without a day's warning. When it attacks in such a way, you lose all faith and so did I. Nothing mattered to me after her onslaught and I grew up to be fearless, challenging each belief and ever ready to face all challenges. Death tried to scare me later too, personally but now it couldn't. I have learnt to accept it and would welcome it now with more dignity.

    I am not sure about life after death as I couldn't be convinced by the beliefs and even if it is there, it is meaningless as we are not aware of our earlier life.

  17. An interesting post, Tina and Karen. I have never really thought much about death although my son, Michael, is like a cat with nine lives and has had a number of close calls which I have been witness too. Everyone thinks/fears/worries about the unknown and death is the last great adventure for us all.

  18. Thank you, firefly. You will meet all of them again; of that, I have no doubt ❤️

  19. Thank you, Norah. I wish the same for you ❤️

  20. Thank you, Balroop. Such a tragedy at an early age can make or break us. It has strengthened you. And I hope you are pleasantly surprised when you cross over :) ❤️

  21. Thank you, Robbie. Having a child who has faced death on numerous occasions gives you a unique perspective on the afterlife. Seeing death as the last great adventure is truly uplifting ❤️